Tips to Manage Anger

Guruji: Ask yourself this question: "Will this angry situation matter ten years from now?" It will help you see things from a calmer perspective.

Try counting to ten or even fifty before saying anything. This may not lessen your anger but it can reduce the damage you will do when angry. Negative thinking contributes to stress and damages your performance. Think positive at all times; you will accomplish much more. Get rid of feelings of inadequacy and stop worrying about how other people will react to you. This kind of thinking will definitely stress you out. Ask yourself: "Did that person do this to me on purpose?" Often you will find that they were just careless and really did not mean you any harm.

Anger is a very common and normal reaction when things do not turn up according to one’s wish. It is natural only till it does not affect your health or spoil the atmosphere. It is very important to hav control on your anger especially when you have grown older. Read and learn what are the drawbacks and precautions that you can take to control your anger.

In any frustrating and upsetting situation, anger erupts and it is a very common reaction from any person. Although it is a universally seen behaviour, it is very important to keep your anger under control. This becomes all the more important if the person gets angry more often. An anger management program is important especially for those who have gone through abusive and unhealthy childhood.

Many people are not able to handle their emotions and so cannot behave in a civilized manner when they grow up. If you think that you are suffering from anger management problem, learn here to control your anger.

Give yourself an intellectual time out and avoid giving instantaneous reaction to any kind of situation. If you are in such a situation, just give sometime to yourself and wait. Think about what exactly is happening and is it worth reacting to it or not. Take 5 minutes to relax and calm down and try to practice breathing technique during this time. You will be able to face the situation in a more mature manner.

Anger not only affects the person that gets angry but also the entire environment and the people around that individual. Your action full of anger or angry words can even hurt the person you love and care for. Once it is done, you cannot bring everything back. When you sit alone analyze your reaction and how you could have handled the situation. You can do this even when you are facing the situation and trying to control your anger you can get along with your reaction. If you are still not able to control your anger, just do not say a word and move away from that place.

 

Consider the root cause of your anger. It is better to analyze your anger and find out what exactly was the root cause. If you are able to do this, you will be able to manage and control your anger more effectively. If you can eradicate the cause, it will be the best thing to control your anger. 

Sometimes anger problem gets beyond control and even if you realize afterwards, you are not able to control it on the spot. Depression is one of the causes that irritates any person and makes him angry. You can take professional help also if you find necessary. Usually medication is given to the individuals who suffer more serious problems associated with anger and if it is only anger management, counseling sessions will help you get rid of it.

It is seen that younger people get angry fast and the main reason behind it is immaturity. So, if you still get angry, simply ask yourself to grow up. Behave like a mature person and control your behaviour.

Advice for Mums  

Mums get angry easily and sometimes they feel that the anger was for some unwanted issues. There are few tips that would help women take their child’s behaviour and stubbornness in a light and less irritating way.

Do not assume that your child should behave in a specific manner. We expect things to be and if it does not turn up in that manner, we get angry. You can control your anger by thinking in a different way and feel good seeing your child contented.

Do not give instances from the past and carry forward the anger. This will simply increase your anger and create a gap between you and your child.

Remember, anger management starts instantaneously when you take a deliberate and conscious decision. This is the way that you will be able to control and manage it.